After taking everything apart again, i replaced all tie rod ends and ball joints on the front end. I did some reading, so i did the bump steer mod, and grinded off my a arm doohickeys, put 3 1/8 inch washers on, and after a long process, finally found out that ACE hardware had longer 14 mm by 1.5 bolts, in case anyone has a hard time finding them. The washers I had to get were huge, as they ran out at 20 mm, and I think it takes 21 or 22 to do this.  So  had to go standard size. Anyways it looks better, I believe 3 1/8 inch washers equals about .36 inches?
 So now i have my beer, and a few lights on at midnight here in PA, only to sit here and contemplate adjusting tie rods.